So typically I don't write about these things because everyone has their own opinions on what they should and shouldn't be. However, ownership is something that is pretty clearly defined in this world. I have recently seen something that has Me totally appalled. Like I said everyone has their own definitions of ownership and the process it takes to get there. In owning a boy, this boy not only reflects on you, but on your skills and training of this boy, as a Domme. When he jumps from Domme to Domme and then BAM all of a sudden becomes owned by you in a matter of days without a Consideration period. In My opinion, it's not a good look at all. It reeks of desperation and shows what type of levels you will go to get him "out of the game" so to speak.
What do you know about this boy?
What have you learned about his interests?
Do these interests fit with yours and your experience levels?
Will this relationship be mutually fulfilling in ALL aspects of your lives?
Those are some of the things I ask Myself when in first talks with a boy who I am thinking of MAYBE putting under My consideration for ownership. I take the time to actually chat with them and learn about them a little bit and if I feel that We have the same interests and MAY work well in a D/s dynamic. At that time I will ask him to change his profile or status to Under Consideration. This is not to say that he is OWNED... this is to simply say that, hey this boy is in talks with a Domme about the relationship that may or may not unfold. IN NO WAY can this relationship form in less than a weeks time let alone a day or two. Nor will I personally even try to push it one way or the other in such a short period. I surely don't know enough about this boy, nor does he know enough about Me in such a short period. It takes time to get to know someone as in ANY type of relationship, Vanilla or D/s.
Now if in fact after about a months time, if not more, this boy has proven to be worthy and the chemistry is there. The tributes and gifts are there. The protocol I have set in place and the tasks I have been giving to him are being adhered to and completed on time, at this point in time I may move this boy to ownership. I tend to let them ask for it. But in no way will I ever own a boy after a week or less EVER. It's not how things go in MY world. This is about Me and what I want ultimately and until I am totally comfortable with how the relationship has developed and feel that this boy can serve his purpose in MY life. He will not move from this stage of Consideration. I have held boys under consideration for well over 2 months and NOT moved them to ownership. I actually went the opposite way with it and released them from My consideration due to not following through, not completing scheduled tributes or tasks, and just being downright disrespectful of MY time. It's not something I allow in My world or on My time.
Now there is also the boys that just want to simply serve a time or two and that is ok as well. As long as you are clear about that up front and not trying to mislead Me, I am cool with it. Now when I am browsing around and I go and look at a profile and see a boy go from being new on the site or newly friends with someone and then owned within days. Its not only a bad look on the boy. It's a TERRIBLE look on the Domme. Now some may or may not agree with Me at all in saying this and that's ok. I am simply saying that these are MY thoughts and opinions which I am entitled to regarding this whole ownership thing.
THESE ARE MY OPINIONS and in no way am I saying they are correct. I am simply maybe opening up the floor for discussion.... or maybe other others views on these things. I am simply one person and as you all know I have strong opinions on many subjects. This happens to be one of them that I take very seriously and I don't see that too many are like Me in this respect for one reason or another. To each their own I suppose.
Thanks for reading ♥
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