Yes that is right, a D/s relationship takes a lot of nourishing to make it fulfilling for both parties involved. Recently, here and many other places I have seen some repulsive things happening to some good boys I have come across in My time online here, and it utterly disgusts Me to be honest. So I am going to go into that a little bit here in this blog. I previously had written a blog about "Truth in Ownership" and this is somewhat an extension to that blog.
So W/we go through this whole Under Consideration period and make sure the boy W/we are going to be owning is exactly what W/we need and want in the relationship that is being built. This relationships foundation is built on trust, loyalty, and most of all COMMUNICATION... on BOTH parts. Not just the boy... or the Domme for that matter. It is a 2 way street in any relationship. Just like it is in D/s relationships. So W/we get through the whole Under Consideration phase and the boy is now OWNED. How exciting right? Of course it is. He has shown his dedication and devotion to Us and made it through all the trials and tribulations that We put him through to get to that point. So W/we both feel great about the strides that the boy has made to prove himself to Us, now it's time to actually maintain this relationship that has been established and continue to make it grow and flourish so that it is long lasting.
So how do W/we do that you ask? Well there are many different types of boys in this fetish W/we know as Financial Domination. Not all of them are the same and not all of them need the same things. So it's important to pay attention to what made the relationship get to the ownership stage in the beginning and also pay attention to the things this boy has told you he wants to explore in the future. We should also respect the hard limits this boy has told Us that he just doesn't want to explore. So W/we go through setting tasks, taking personalized photos, making little videos, cam sessions, restrictions and a host of other things that keeps the relationship going. The boy becomes more addicted and needy of course. They may begin to message you more often and ask about/need more things to keep this relationship going. Its key to pay attention to these needs and at the same time... SET LIMITS so they arent invading your personal space. So set aside maybe an hour or two a week for a cam session or to make them a video, or even just type out an email with a scenario in it that is something they have spoken about in the past, set aside some messenger time or whatever else works for both of you. These things are key to maintaining this relationship. If any of you Ladies are like Me... I have a shit ton of fans, worshipers, UC, and owned boys. It can become very time consuming. I understand that. We still have an obligation to nurture the relationships We have taken on.
Now with that being said.... There is also another side to this. What do We do if life gets in the way and We no longer have the time to give to the relationship anymore? Well there are many ways that this situation can be addressed. You can handle it many different ways but there are WRONG ways to go about this. Simply disappearing and cutting off communication with this boy is NOT the right way to go. So you are still accepting his tributes and he is sitting there hoping that it will make you say something? Is that right?.... Absolutely not. You as the Domme that made the same commitment that this boy made to you... NEED to do one of two things. You need to sit and have a talk with this boy and let him know that at this point in time, there are lots of things going on in life, you have no time to devote to the relationship anymore and help him move on. Or you can actually do the thing that any experienced and well versed Domme would do.... HELP HIM FIND ANOTHER DOMME!!! These two things are the ONLY way to do this right. Simply disappearing and not letting this boy know anything.... is not acceptable. You made a commitment to this boy as well. So you as a good Domme.... would take the steps to make sure that his emotional state is ok and that he is able to move on in either circumstance. Yes, you may have things going on in life... but you still need to get these boys to a good place. They have become dependent on you for guidance and direction. Disappearing is not only not right... but it shows what type of person you truly are.
The moral to this story because I have been seeing this happen all over the internet recently, is to make sure that you are seeing the relationship through.... beginning to end. You leave the scene for awhile or for good and that is fine. At times We all have to step back for a bit, have things that happen in life that We have no control over, or just have no interest in domination anymore, whatever it may be that is stopping you from being the Domme you once were before. You still have an obligation to end the relationships properly. There is no excuse for doing anything but the right thing.
Until next time....
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